Welcome to I Break Cycles - whether you are here for coaching or counseling - you already started down the path of your healing journey. I picked the name "I Break Cycles" because I am very passionate about helping people not only learn about unhealthy cycles and patterns in their lives but identifying their own role in them.
Sometimes we look outward for change to happen. The problem is, we don't realize that in order for change to happen, we have to accept we play a role in the chaos. I was able to find peace in my chaos when I started looking inward, becoming a cycle breaker in my relationships.
One of the most memorable moments in my own therapy journey was when my therapist said to me, "But what are YOU going to do different?" Like many people, I came to session and complained about something that kept happening again and again. Frustrated that nothing was changing yet - nothing was changing. I took no accountability for the cycle I was in because I was the victim, I was the one continuing to be stressed or hurt by what was happening. I wasn't doing anything wrong but kept finding myself in the same cycle of getting hurt. Interestingly enough - doing nothing was the problem. The cycle could only continue if I stayed in it. I had to be the change, break the cycle. Without that one seemingly insignificant moment in therapy, I would still be in the cycle, getting the same result over and over, thinking - I'm not doing anything wrong.
Ever since that moment, I work hard at finding the cycles I'm in that need breaking. Sometimes, I can do it on my own. Sometimes, I can't see the cycle. That's where I come in - I want to help you find the peace by identifying your role in these cycles - then break them!